Caregiver: Someone who provides whatever is needed for another person's well-being.
That Sounds Like Me!
ResourcesGrandfamilies State Law and Policy Resource Center:
Don't Have Time To Take Care Of Myself!
Is There Some Equipment That Will Help!
Where Can I Find Some Support?
Transportation, Food and Finances Are Real Problems
I Just Need a Break!
What Can I Do About
Important Legal Issues?
How Will I Know If It's
Time for Long Term Care?
Local Training Is Available
Likely the best thing a caregiver can do for their loved one is to take care of themselves.
Caregivers tend to put their own needs on the back burner.
But if you're not healthy you can not provide assistance to another.
and important to take care of yourself!
Research indicates that 46% - 59% of caregivers are clinically depressed. When did you last talk about your feelings with someone?
Pay attention to:eating right, getting enough sleep and exercising some!Check out: the Caregiver Stress test at
Pay attention to:eating right, getting enough sleep and exercising some!
Check out: the Caregiver Stress test at
Have you ever had to call a tow truck to change a tire? They come with all the right equipment and in a flash and with seemingly little effort the tire is changed! Don't you want to say "Well if I had all that stuff I could do it myself!"
Having the right equipment can make caregiving tasks simpler, faster and more efficient. Discuss needs with your doctor. Ask for a physical or occupational therapy evaluation.
Equipment To Consider:
Contact agencies from the phonebook under Hospital Equipment and Supplies or under Medical Equipment and Supplies.
Contact the Caregiver Support Program at the Mecklenburg County Department of Social Services for assistance at
I'd just like to know I'm not in the boat by myself!
Support groups, training and counseling may be the answer. Groups meet at various times in different locations all over the county.They are all different - - - one size does not fit all!
If your loved one is in another county - contact the Area Agency of Aging
Support may be as close as family members. Being specific with your brother about what you need him to do to help with Mom may result in quicker cooperation.
Raising Grandchildren Support Group Meeting - FreeCall
980-314-7076 for more information or to RSVP if you plan to attend. Usually meets 2nd Monday of the month. Childcare provided.
Location:Department of Social Services3205 Freedom DriveCharlotte, NC 28208
Time: 5:30 P.M. - 7:30 p.m.
Other Resources Family Caregiver Alliance
Two quick hints:1. Have a job jar and when the well-intentioned friend or family member says, "Let me know what I can do to help." Have the suggestions ready!
2. Tell the family - "The doctor wants Mom to have X,Y, and Z. I can do Y and Z. Who can do X?
If you don't know call Just1Call at
Being a caregiver can exhaust not only physical and mental resources but financial reserves as well.
Check out the availability of some of these resources:
Elderly General TransportationCongregate meals/Home delivered mealsFood PantriesContact Just1Call 704-432-1111.
Crisis Assistance Ministry
704-371-3000Food Stamps -
704-336-3000Medicare - including Medicare Part D -
Veterans Benefits -
If you need assistance accessing these services, call the following numbers for more information and referrals:
Department of Social Services Customer Connections
United Way 2-1-1 or
Tips for getting the information you need:
Res-pite (rés¡ pit) a break, relief, breathing space.
Caregivers need time for themselves and breaks are a necessity to maintain good physical and emotional health.
Possible sources for respite - Experiment till you find the right fit!
17220 Norcross Drive, Suite 120Huntersville, NC 28078
Loving Touch Adult Day/Health Care Center, Inc.
1302 Beatties Ford Road
Charlotte, NC 28216
17220 Norcross Drive, Suite 120Huntersville, NC 28078
Family Caregiver Support Program may be able to assist with respite
For working caregivers check with your employer to see what benefits might be available.
If your care-recipient has Medicaid you may want to explore Personal Care Services, or the Community Alternative Program
For a mini break, try this relaxation technique. . .
Do some deep breathing:
One of the best things to do to avoid a crisis is to Plan Ahead!
What is the plan if you get sick or are injured in an accident?
What are your care-recipient's wishes for end of life care ? (examples: tube-feeding, ventilation, Do Not Resuscitate)
When you or your loved one can no longer make decisions - who can and who will make those decisions?Issues to consider:
Consult with an Estate and Elder Law Attorney.
Consult Legal Services for the Elderly
Legal Services of Southern Piedmont
Access free forms for advance directives at website* Remember documents are not official until they have been notarized.
Keeping a caregiver notebook:
As tedious as this may sound to some people, it can be a blessing when needed. Good record keeping can document tax deductions for dependent care, explain financial costs to siblings, and be a guidebook for substitute caregivers. We suggest the following be kept in your caregiver notebook:
Long Term Care (LTC) describes residence in one of the following:
Residents receive supervision/assistance 24 hours each day. You continue to be a caregiver and advocate, but the care is a shared responsibility.
For information about facilities, contact the Ombudsman program
Placement assistance is available at the Department of Social Services
There is a range of care from independent living to nursing home residency with many care possibilities in between. Caregivers need to be realistic about how much care their loved one needs. Talking honestly with the doctor is very important.
Note the tell-tale signs that indicate the need for a change.
The loved one may need more care than you are able to provide.
The Caregiver may have reached her/his limits.Are you:
The Caregiver may have reached her/his limits.
Be honest with yourself!
Learning more about your job as a caregiver can give you more confidence in your role and more success.
The caregiver specialist "Have Training - Will Travel" will come to your church, synagogue, club, or support group to discuss caregiving issues. Trainings and caregiver celebrations are offered throughout the year. Contact Just1Call at
704-432-1111 with your questions or to indicate your interest in being notified about any of these events or the two trainings below.
Two (2) specific training programs are available:
Powerful Tools for CaregiversLearn to reduce stress, improve self-confidence, better communicate your feelings, balance your life, increase your ability to make tough decisions and locate helpful resources. This is a series of six (6) classes taught by two trained leaders. Classes will take place throughout the community.
There is wonderful information on the internet that you can use to educate yourself. We highly recommend the following sites:
NC Division of Aging and Adult Services National Family Caregiver's Association
Other community training available:
Central Piedmont Community College
Centralina Area Agency on Aging - regional events and training -
704-372-2416Hospice and Palliative Care, Charlotte Region
Red Cross Caregiving Training -
Western Carolina Chapter Alzheimer's Association- 980-498-7760
The more you know about the care-recipient's illness the better prepared you'll be to deal with behaviors and needs. You'll have some idea about what to expect.
A good evaluation by the doctor is essential for making a care plan. The doctor will need input from the caregiver about their observations and concerns.
Here are some possible resources about common illnesses:
AIDSCarolinas CARE Partnership
Alzheimer's and Related DementiasWestern Carolina Chapter Alzheimer's AssociationHelp line
980-498-7760http://www.alz.org/ or in North Carolina http://www.alz.org/northcarolina/Duke Family Support Program
CancerAmerican Cancer Association704-552-6147www.cancer.org
DiabetesAmerican Diabetes Association704-373-9111www.diabetes.org
Heart AttackAmerican Heart Association704-417-5751www.heart.org
Speech and Hearing DisabilitiesCharlotte Regional Resource Center for the Deaf and Hard of Hearing
800-835-5302Relay operator 7-1-1 or
StrokeNational Stroke Association
Terminal IllnessHospice and Palliative Care Charlotte Region
704-375-0100Presbyterian Hospice and Palliative Care
Visual DisabilitiesMetrolina Association for the Blind
www.mabnc.org. NC Division of Services for the Blind